"What we plan or have in our mind, changes course without our control and we just become mute spectator to the way our good time becomes bad time"?
"I was going in such a good mood, all mood got spoilt by those sequence of events".This comes to our mind too often. Isn't it?
The situations/surroundings/places don't change but the thoughts in mind changes, and the feelings that were so good become bad. Do we have any control over the chain of events or not?.
Answer is both - 'Yes' and 'No'.
'NO', we don't have any control over the happenings, the events, situations etc ,e.g.suppose you had to visit someone or some place, and you plan well and have ample time to reach and comfortably spend time. But on way you had a brief altercation with a foolish bystander walking carelessly or had a tyre puncture,you became damn angry on the man or the road and the time you had planned got wasted in useless situation that made you feel angry, sad and dejected. Now same set of places you are going from, will seem unenjoyable and boring. So you didn't have control. Isn't it?
Now 'Yes'. Yes you can control the situations, but how?
The same foolish bystander or a tyre puncture or waste of time that you had, can just be given a go by in your mind, and move on.So what does that mean? Although situations are not man made but the situation of your mind can be man made and that man should be 'you'.
We should not let other people have control over our mind, so while others can do or create situation which can make us angry, we have control of our mind if we think seriously. We can strive not to be angry at other's discretion but have control of our anger.
So don't give the key of your mind to others, key should be in your hands. It should be your privelage to be angry or not and other's action should not deviate you, whatever be the case.
Have an open mind, always ready to absorb new/unforeseen situations without access of others to your anger. Whenever others have made you angry just give it a thought.
What an irony, that the person reduces his life by a minute whenever one becomes angry, so because of other's fault we do damage to our own self.
Friends and my Fellow Mankind, Be happy and have your key always with you and not others.
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